Okay, I’m done seeing this. I’m done with people like you acting all high and mighty against men because “men are trash” or some other shit you are probably going to reply to me with.
Years ago, my twin brother got into a relationship with a woman. She was sweet, kind, and seemed supportive. The exact kinda relationship you want to see a family member get into. But little by little, day by day, my brother started talking and hanging out with me. At first I thought it was something I did, maybe I said something wrong. But no, this bitch told my brother to stop spending with any female woman he knows, including family. Of course, warning bells go off in my head, but I chose to ignore them. Like you, I was close minded at one point and believed that men couldn’t be abused. I will regret this decision for the rest of my life.
The violence soon began after she trapped him. Yes I use the word trap, because that’s basically what happened. She didn’t let him out of the house because she “loved” him and was scared he would leave her. He wasn’t allowed to go to parties because he might cheat on her. He was alone with this woman, who even controlled how long he spent online and where he went. (She used parent controls.)
The violence began as minor stuff, pushing him or “accidentally” stepping on his feet or hands. But like most domestic violence cases, it just got worst. The big one first happened when she slapped him across the face after he refused to not come to our dad’s birthday celebration. She “apologized” and then said that she wouldn’t do that if he would just listen to her.
He tried, oh gods above did my brother try to keep her happy. It was no longer about because he loved her, but he was scared that she would hurt him or destroy something precious to him. She started misgendering him (my brother transitioned from FtM), insulting him, making fun of his likes and hobbies. She would destroy his photos or personal belongings like clothes.
One day, enough was enough, and after she took paused from punching him during an argument, he pushed her hard enough that she fell to the floor, and he ran to the bathroom to call me to come and help him. At this point, I did basic research about domestic violence against men (something you obviously haven’t OP) and knew something horrible was going on. I quickly drove over to their house, not home… never home, and picked him up as she was screaming on the porch to have him arrested for “hurting” her.
Just a few hours later, after cleaning himself up and me bandaging any wounds on him, the police showed up to our house. Our first though, as Native Hawaiians, was “oh fuck.” So after hearing his side of the story, you know what this PO did? He arrested my brother! On the charges of domestic violence. For you ask? Pushing her. Yeah, that thing my brother did in self defense? Got him arrested.
He soon got released on flimsy charges, and this bitch tried to get together with him again. Not making the same mistake twice, we got him to place a restraining order against her. The police wouldn’t do shit, so he had to get a restraining order.
And after all of this, my brother still doubts that he went through domestic violence, because people like OP exist who believe that women are fragile and weak against the strong and unbreakable men. And let’s just forget about same sex relationships, even though there is a same sex domestic violence epidemic happening.
Ignoring this idiotic, sexist OP for a second. I beg anyone reading this, if you or a love one is going through domestic abuse, or believe you are, I beg you, as someone who made the mistake of not taking action for so long, to not make the same mistake I did. It doesn’t matter if you are a man, woman, or nonbinary. Nobody deserves to go through such a difficult situation, much less to feel like nobody is one their side. (Like OP.) Please, call the National Domestic Violence Hotline. Their number is
1-800-799-7233. You are not alone.
There was one in Canada.
WAS being the key word because when the person who opened it did so, he was ridiculed, attacked and harassed over it all while the government never paid him enough to keep it going. Then he committed suicide.
I’m so tired of every show that takes place in the past (wild west, medieval, pirates etc) ALWAYS having so much sexual violence towards women like writers can cry “oh it’s realism” all you want but it’s very transparent how realism only applies when you want to hurt women on screen. If we’re talking staying realistic, why doesn’t everyone have brown teeth? Or bad skin? Or dying of dysentery? Just admit y’all want an excuse to brutalize women on screen lol
Its a cheap and easy way to show how evil the characters are, since nothing done to a man is considered nearly as horrible
Yeah it’s not a sign of showing they hate women. It’s a sign that something bad happening to women is seen as a special kind of evil while the same thing happening to a man is just normal.
Either way shows should just stop doing that.
Remember the fuss when Sansa was raped in GOT (in the modern understanding).
Remember how those same people had no problem with men being tortured, castrated, murdered, burned alive, and so on. Even when this was in numbers in the thousands, tens of thousands if you include battles.
It’s not that women are overly subjected to sexual violence. It is that you only care when women are the victims.
I don’t think there’s ever been a “wild west, medieval, pirates etc” movie in which women are hurt or killed in anything even close to comparable to the same numbers as men in the same film.
The basic rule is: whenever you see a woman die in a film she must have a face, humanity, emotions, pain: her death must count.
Whereas every action movie you see will have literally hundreds of faceless men dying, shot, stabbed, blown apart in front of you. But you’re not expected to feel anything one way or another about that, and indeed you don’t.
All human beings evolved to put the safety and security of women (and children) before that of men. This is a universal constant found in every known society, at every point in history, and so exploiting that by suggesting a (real or imagined) potential threat to women has historically been one of the most reliable ways to manipulate men to do whatever it is you want them to do (such as go to war, for instance).
Dramatists realised long, long ago that if you want to quickly establish who the ‘bad guy’ is onscreen, the easiest thing to do is have them indicate their intention to Rape The Girl. Or, indeed,make them rape the Girl. Once either of these things happens, any moral uncertainty or queasiness the audience might otherwise be troubled by is immediately removed and they can comfortably switch off their brain, and settle back into their passenger seat for the ride. Every single person watching the film now knows any violence directed towards that fictional man, no matter how horrific or barbaric, is justified and hence something to be enjoyed and applauded, guilt-free.
Game of Thrones is a very good example of this whole phenomenon, because of how enormously popular it is to both sexes, how insanely high its violence count against men is – sexual and otherwise – and how shaking snowflake teenage girls were quite happy to eat popcorn through literally days and days of that but then went into full meltdown only when one of the few female characters who actually got hurt in the whole show had a particularly bad wedding night.
Feminism really is some kind of mental illness, that forces the sufferer to perceive genocidal hatred of women in manspreading, mansplaining and office air conditioning but blinds them from being able to see the mountain of male corpses and homeless men they walk past every day on the way to get their latte.
Burn it with fire, I say. The world will never again be sane and happy until it’s gone for good.
You think I read a single word of that
Of course not, but thanks for reblogging it so all your followers could.
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