You may have already posted about it before, but what MBTI type are you? How did you find out? Based on the quizzes and research I’ve done, I think its safe to say I’m personally an INFP.

Not surprising! There are a lot of INFPs on the internet, especially tumblr. :> I’m an ESFJ, as far as I can tell.

What are the biggest differences between an ESFJ and an ENFJ?

Both have dominant Fe, which means both have a nurturing mindset. They both want to maintain social harmony and iron out conflicts between people. They both want to help people with problems and care for people’s well-being. However, the methods or strategies they prefer to use will be different because of the middle functions.

Si-Ne: Because Sensing comes first, ESFJs focus more on the practical details of what people need. They take care of people’s physical and emotional needs by remembering people’s preferences or taking time to figure out how to make people feel more included or comfortable. They examine what you need right here and now and try to fulfill those needs as best as they can. Healthy ESFJs will utilize Ne to visualize different scenarios in terms of what types of problems people might run into, and then they can form better plans for getting around those problems or conflicts. For example, if a group of people have an activity planned, ESFJs will imagine what could go wrong or how people might feel uncomfortable and then plan accordingly. Unhealthy ESFJs will tend to use Ne unconsciously, imagining people’s motivations or intentions to be negative or even malicious, and then they will try to take control of the situation in ways that seem manipulative, clingy, or overbearing.

Ni-Se: Because Intuition comes first, ENFJs focus more on abstract generalizations. They care more about the bigger picture of human existence in terms of what people need in order to live (spiritually) happy and fulfilling lives in the long term. They are looking for fundamental truths about human nature that can be applied to help people be the best that they can be, often with a very heavy focus on strengthening the emotional bonds between people and promoting the development of more abstract principles like empathy, communication, and relationship building. They sometimes tend to overlook the practical details of what people need in the here and now, and focus more on conceptual ideals for the future. Healthy ENFJs will utilize Se to make practical plans to achieve their ideals for human or societal development. For example, if they believe that making the world more peaceful requires people to be more empathetic towards each other, they will use Se to find practical ways to achieve that goal, trying to adjust their plans to fit the experiences of the people they’re dealing with day to day. Unhealthy ENFJs will tend to use Se combatively or aggressively, trying to force their own ideals and methods onto others, creating an artificial sort of harmony that streamrolls people’s individual needs and preferences.

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Extroverts have it easier. #not

myxomatosisomatic:

entpalloverme:

I see it on my dash all day, introverts are the under appreciated, overwhelmed and overlooked sad little snowflakes. Extroverts bother them to no end and should piss off and make more of an effort to understand them, because life is hard for introverts and extroverts have it so easy. Well let me tell you, we don’t.

You have no idea how much I’d like to just quietly sit and read a book without constantly thinking of sharing this with that person. Without feeling alone, because I need interaction and without wanting someone else’s input on something. You have no clue how much I hate interacting with everyone because I’m an extrovert, not because I like them. You have no idea of the fact that I have so many friends, just because I open my mouth and interact, but don’t actually have any special bond or anything with them and they don’t care about me just as much as I don’t care about them. You’ve no idea how hard it is for me to just sit down and do nothing and talk to no one, because I’m constantly looking for interaction.

I wish I had that thing where my house is a sanctuary of silence, but it’s not, because work is where the people are and home is where there’s no sound. I wish I didn’t have to punch myself in the face to put my phone away, because I want to talk to everyone but I actually really don’t. And you’ve no idea how hard it is for me to focus with all these stupid people around.

But most of all, you’ve no idea how much it sucks to interact with introverts. To feel constantly ignored, like you’re being too much, like you’re intruding on them, like you’re not good enough to replace their alone-time and like you mean nothing to them. You’ve no idea how shitty we feel if you ignore our texts for days and keep cancelling on plans, because we want to see you but you don’t want to see us. Not because you’re doing something, but because you want to be alone. But we understand, we keep inviting you, we keep interacting, because that’s who we are. Don’t take it for granted so much, because we make an effort. We try and understand you, respect your privacy. But you know, you could do with trying to understand us sometimes too, with all that introspection you have. Don’t stab us in the front with your love of exclusion. News freaking flash, stop being such dismissive jerks and care about someone else for a change.

Oh my gosh SING IT GIRL. Introverts have the right to their feels but look at the comments here and see how much they freak out when an extrovert dares to have their own. Extroverts and introverts are always gonna bump into each other and hurt each other, it’s just a part of navigating humans, but introverts demand a lot of space and sympathy on the internet without giving that same respect and caring to the extroverts that get hurt along the way.

***It is exactly as painful for an extrovert to be ditched by an introverted friend and to feel unwanted as it is for an introvert to have to navigate a social situation they don’t want to be in.***

This post is a little extra but that’s cause they’re highly emotional and exploding after having to bottle up this feeling for all time. I feel you so hard.