Any man who complains about being nagged really ain’t shit because women only “nag” men who say they’ll do something and then they don’t. Men who do what they said they were gonna do when they said they were gonna do it don’t have those problems, cause women don’t ever have to ask them twice (or even at all) to take out the trash, to watch the kids, to pick up their socks etc, and those men have mutually fulfilling and drama-free relationships with women. If she’s nagging you, it’s your fault.
Also it’s so funny that “nagging” is seen as a much bigger relationship no-no than not being dependable and a person of your word, to the point where women will go out of their way not to “nag” a man who hasn’t done the dishes in weeks and just grin and bear it and do it themselves – what a fucking scam
Yes yes yes
I feel like this is the most repulsive part of our marriage culture that all men and women have excepted as normal and even funny enough to make memes and videos where we all laugh about a woman struggling to raise a family by herself and clean up after everyone including an other adult by herself. I just think it’s disgusting most married woman are single mothers of their own husbands even. It’s absolutely stupid and if you’re a man who has to “watch/babysit” your own children so you’re wife can rest or sit in front of a tv then you need to step it up and be a father and a husband. I’m so sick of hearing literally every woman I know sobbing because they are so overwhelmed with doing absolutely everything by themselves. You didn’t marry your own mother or a slave. I hope men break this gross marriage culture. The stupidest thing is the “I didn’t know you needed help you didn’t ask”. Oh hell no. In my house when someone is doing something, laundry, dishes, cooking, and you walk by them you ASK if they need help. I raise my kids that way and I wouldn’t expect my husband to be worse at helping than my own children. And if I hear the whole “well I work and my wife stays at home” um both times when I was a stay at home mom as soon as my husband was home he did a minimum of 50% of the housework and co-parents with me, when we both worked full time he actually did probably 75% of the house work and parenting since my hours were late and I had to sleep in.
Since my blog is primarily religious, if you’re reading this men, your wife is supposed to be you’re helper, not your mommy. If I see another “trad” blog with a woman slaving away while her husband sits on a recliner reading a paper I’m going to burn their laptop.
I hate that I have to constantly talk to my teen sons about this. I have actually told them several times that if they get married and act like just another toddler in the house I will literally move in with them and baby sit him to be sure he pitches in a min of 50% since it would be apparent he still needs a mommy.
So I’ve been ruining my kids lives by saying “weird flex but ok” to everything and when I do it they scream no and tell me they’re running away and I made this lovely photo lemme get it
Ok so I need some help coming up with the absolute worst “to flex on” live memes ever to pretend I’m an even more really lame parent. they don’t have to make sense but they need to be absolutely awful yet believable enough that it isn’t obvious I’m intentionally trying to be more lame
Here’s the ones I came up with so far
“You ever just eat a well balanced diet and exercise daily to flex on heart disease?”
“You ever just boil chilies to flex on your eyes?”
“You ever just be cool to flex on your kids?”
“You ever just use sanitizer to flex on 99.9% of all bacteria and viruses?”
“You ever just turn all the lights and up the heater to flex on Dad?”
Catholic edition:
“You ever just like receive the sacraments frequently to flex on Satan?”
“You ever just like love your Mom to flex on Protestants?”
So I executed the first one in the kitchen then I dabbed and my son didn’t say anything he just set down his pomegranate and walked out the front door with no shoes on and now he’s walking down the street
i go down this and break my legs landing in the shitty little pool with the acceleration from that twenty foot straight section and the people audience clap their fuckin asses off
it seems so strange to me that the only people it is socially acceptable to live with (once you reach a certain stage in life) are sexual partners? like why can’t i live with my best friend? why can’t i raise a child with them? why do i need to have sex with someone in order to live with them? why do we put certain relationships on a pedestal? why don’t we value non-sexual relationships enough? why do life partners always have to be sexual partners?
My grandmother and grandfather more or less adopted my grandmother’s best friend back in the 50s. After my grandfather died (before I was born, back in 1968 or so) they continued to keep house together, platonic best friends, and they hung together until they died, a few months apart, in 2007.
It’s quite recently, as far as I can tell, that living arrangements like that have stopped being regarded as normal.
It’s absolutely a new thing to find this stuff weird, and it has a lot to do with media pretending that the nuclear family and marriage are the only reasons to live with other people.
I’ve lived in a 3 adult household my whole life. My parents and their best friend. This was never weird to me, even though everyone my age thought it was because the media never portrayed these kinds of housing arrangements. As far as i was concerned, I just had an extra non-blood parent.
According to my parents, it was very common in the 70′s-80′s to buy houses with your friends, because it was financially smart to do so (so long as you were certain they were close friends who wouldn’t fall out with you and fuck everything up). Houses and house payments are much more manageable when you split the bills 3-4 ways instead of just two.
Millenials aren’t the first to think it’s a great idea to just shack up with friends. That’s housemating without the hastle of living with strangers. It’s still a good idea to shack up with people you’ve known a long time so you know how you’ll get on living together, but still. In the current economy, it’s pretty much now our only option for affording anything.
I think, and I’m not researched on this, but I think conservatives probably tried to suppress images of non-nuclear families because they likely thought it would encourage ideas of polygamy, polyamory, open sexual relationships with or without marriage, as well as other relationship types they thought of as un-christian or unsavoury. I could be wrong, but that shit wouldn’t surprise me.
(And i want to make a note that there’s also a disturbing amount of asexual denial around that makes people go ‘if they’re living together they HAVE to be banging because why wouldn’t they?’ and that shit both creeps me out and annoys me no end. People can be in relationships without sex. People can live together without sex. Sex is not the be-all and end-all and people being taught to think it is really need to stop).
Don’t let the media fool you into believing you can only live with a sexual partner or blood family. Someone somewhere has an agenda for making these seem abnormal, when really it’s just practical.
A lot of people acted like it was super weird when two of my brothers decided to move states with me when I started my postdoc. I got really used to giving a little canned speech about it because it seemed to bewilder people so much. (Their leases happened to be up! We could share rent! They wanted to try somewhere new!)
The notable exception was my grandma, who was just like, “oh, yes, when we were young my sister and I decided to move cross-country together and it was lovely.”
More of this kind of thing for everyone, pls.
The implication that close sibling relationships must also be a warning sign for incest also peeves me off; what kind of society are we living in anyway
This is a lesson a lot of us have to learn about our writing. It’s never as bad as we think it is, and sometimes we just need to take some time away from it to find that out.
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