I literally only have one rule in my writing and it is this:
No matter what I put my characters through, they make it. They get to make it to the end of the story and have everything work out and be ok.
Because that’s the story I need. So it’s the kind I write.
If you want a piece of writing advice: write a story that is what you needed to hear at whatever age your target demographic is. I can guarantee you there’ll be someone out there who needs to hear it as much as you did. And maybe you’ll help them the same way someone else’s story did for you.
For some reason, this hit home and I never realized it that I did this for my stories too
I’m becoming bored with the anti-feminization of fantasy novels. I’m all for heroines who take up a sword, or who chafe against the expectations of their society. But can’t we have more heroines who like dresses and housework and embroidery and family life? We don’t just need heroines who do stereotypically masculine things. Because that perpetuates the sexism–women are only welcome if they’re just like the boys.
We also need to show that stereotypically feminine tasks and roles can be heroic.
To that end, here are some suggestions:
The princess who arranges her own marriage, because someone’s got to make the alliance to save this kingdom and it may as well be her. (Extra points: her parents want her to be a knight, but she runs away from home because she would rather get married).
A heroine who really, really loves babies and want to get married and start a family.
Women who love doing embroidery,and comparing patterns and making up new designs. And maybe they embroider a map or two for the adventure, because paper can tear and get wet, and that’s not a problem for fabric.
A woman who has to wear trousers for a portion of the adventure–and hates them. They might be slightly more convenient for running, but they’re uncomfortable, and her legs are too warm, and can’t she please get into skirts again?
Mothers as fantasy protagonists. Caring for their children while also dealing with the demands of the fantasy plot. Queens who negotiate treaties and care for the demands of the castle and then go back to spend time with their children.
Women who don’t get married and aren’t pressured to get married, but have a happy, successful single life–working as a spinster or running a farm or having any other sort of successful business.
Fantasy societies that are built around the fact that women get pregnant and have children. Bringing your children to the meeting of the fellowship is totally okay! You can run the castle while your children play at your feet! Women aren’t trapped in the house caring for the babies because babies are welcome!
There are loads of interesting things that can happen if stories go beyond the tropes and include the reality of female life. (And if anyone knows of fantasy novels that include some of these things, please point me toward them).
I’ve reblogged this so many times because I truly think every parent should involve themselves with what their child enjoys.
Not to mention this is an act of solidarity. He’s saying “even if the entire world is against you, I’m on your side.” Which I think is important for a kid to know. He’s refusing to be a bully to his child, even if he doesn’t understand.
I work at Hot Topic and we had a white suburban dad in who was buying matching heavy metal/screamo band shirts for him and his teenage daughter and said “To be honest, I think this stuff sounds like garbage, but she likes it so we listen to it together and we’re going to the concert for Christmas.” And it was just really heartwarming to see him so involved in his child’s life and validating her interests.
I WILL NEVER NOT REBLOG THIS.
“I don’t get it, but I love how you love it” is one of the best things anyone can say. My entire family asks questions about comics because they want to share my enthusiasm for them and support me, even though they otherwise wouldn’t pay attention to the industry at all.
I cried when I first saw this
This is amazing and really important
I went though a goth faze in my teens (like most) and I wanted more than anything to paint my room black. My mom was supportive of my personal expression in terms of my clothes and hair and accessories but she was genuinely concerned about the toll a black room would take on my mental health (I was already prone to recurring depression at that point and still am). I begged for months to repaint my room, but she wouldn’t budge.
One weekend i spent with my dad and when I came back she had repainted my room. A beautiful deep blue on three walls (my favourite colour), lovely sky blue on the ceiling,and one wall was black. The black wall had been sanded smooth and painted with several coats of chalkboard paint. She gave me a couple boxes of chalk and told me to have at it. I LOVED that black wall and wrote on it every day. I drew on it, I doodled, I wrote out my favourite emo song lyrics, wrote reminders for myself, anything I wanted. It was my favourite part of my room and was something that it would have never occurred to me to ask for. It was something only my very creative and clever mom could have come up with and I’m still grateful to her for it.
In retrospect, a room of black walls would indeed have been encouraging a reacurrence of my depression and my moms answer was the perfect compromise. That black wall ended up being the most colourful part of my room.
Wow this is really beautiful. You have a great mom
This statement is taken so lightly. For one women don’t believe they can be abusive and the view of society on men prohibits the fact that a woman could successfully mentally, physically and emotionally abuse a man.
I went through all the notes. And a lot of y’all faves don’t even like or reblog things like this
^^^ because they’re the women that this post is about.
This is very important
A lot of men are emotionally and mentally abused by women under the guise of “if you love me then you’ll accept me as I am” and “you’re not man enough to handle a strong woman like me”. A lot of men put up with emotional and mental abuse from women simply because they believe it’s a measurement of their manhood how much they can endure and there are women who know that. They manipulate the emotional and mental playing fields to entice conflict so they can be the victim and cause the man to break down and be easily used and treated how she sees fit….
It’s a very dangerous thing, mental and emotional abuse because it’s so easily masked behind other things
Faaacts 🗣
I was literally just talking with a dude today, a professional who came out to inspect for termites, who let me know he’s going through a divorce. He chose to leave. He said his wife pressured him into quitting his job, controlled the finances and tried to prevent him from taking any of the money he earned when he left, hated his family and friends and tried to cut him off from seeing them, and pulled a bunch of manipulative shit to try and stop him from leaving and keep him home, without a social life.
He was the type of person who’d say ‘fuck this’ and get out of that relationship. But not everybody is that time. Some are more vulnerable than others. Men can be manipulated, bullied, coerced, and abused.
I’ve been manipulated and abused by women and I am a woman. I know what those kinda people are capable of. Women can be toxic as well, know the signs and check that bihh before you dip
👆🏽👆🏽👆🏽👆🏽same
some of the worst kind ughhh my stomach hurt yo
Hold women accountable too!
My ex used me, lied and deceived me,cheated with mutiple people because still looked me in my face and told me she loved me.
Anybody can do you dirty. Any body can get it
^^^^^
A lot of men are emotionally and mentally abused by women under the guise of “if you love me then you’ll accept me as I am” and “you’re not man enough to handle a strong woman like me”. A lot of men put up with emotional and mental abuse from women simply because they believe it’s a measurement of their manhood how much they can endure and there are women who know that…
THERES SHITTY WOMEN ON THIS PLANET PLEASE BEWARE! LEARN TO RECOGNIZE THE SIGNS AND LOVE YOURSELVES BOYS!!! YOU DESERVE ALL THE LOVE IN THE WORLD!
I can elaborate: the cultures and site dynamics of 4chan and tumblr are heavily based on the social natures of men and women respectively:
4chan is all about anonymity, popularity is despised (such as with tripfags) as it is seen as undeserved “attention whoring”. They love to shit on eachother and get in flamewars and arguments but ultimately share a sense comradery. Discussions and posts in general are based around specific topics and hobbies, usually revolving around external issues rather than personal ones.
Tumblr on the other hand is based heavily around popularity and social status. Blogs will flaunt their follower count and reblogs. Much like women in real life, people on tumblr will take any chance they can to boost their own popularity by calling out larger blogs for percieved slights or mistakes. Drama is the lifeblood of this website. Discussions usually revolve around personal feelings or situations, with specific topics simply being vehicles for personal drama.
Basically, 4chan is Fight Club and tumblr is Desperate Housewives
Everyone knows that Taehyung’s never been one to be limited by rules. Beloved by the other villagers, young and old alike, they all agree that the boy possesses a huge heart that underlies a unique sense of wisdom. For his coming-of-age ceremony, people murmured in surprise and worry when he picked the largest, most intimidating steed in the whole herd, a dark bay mare whose tossing head towered above him by several feet — only to sigh and chuckle when horse and boy wound up forging the strongest of bonds after all.
So, really, who could be surprised when one evening he strolls into the village leading Hodu by her reins with one hand, and holding the cursed boy’s wrist in his other?
(Or; Taehyung is aware of just what he’d do to save his best friend’s life — what he’d do to bring him back.)
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