You are not afraid of the sufferings and sorrows of other people,
even when they are acted out in unappealing ways. Beneath even
defensiveness and self-righteous behavior, you know that deep down
people need nurturing and consolation. One danger is being naive about
people’s dark sides. But at your best you know you can be mean yourself,
which helps you to sympathize. You bring strength and forgiveness where
other people might panic.
Neediness
Being affirmed and nurtured by others is a central requirement for
you to feel safe. This means you can be slow to warm up to other people,
which is difficult because what you most need from them is their
warmth. Yet you know how to be vulnerable: to let down your defenses and
accept that you need another person. This lack of pretense is a
valuable trait, and ultimately more endearing than the macho efforts
others make to deny their childlike sides.
Aggression
One part of your character is anger in all its forms: frustration,
outrage – and when anger is suppressed – bitterness, grumpiness, and
bodily aches. Fundamentally, frustration comes from hope: you get upset
because you expect your life will be more than a valley of tears. One
way to deny aggression is to direct it inwards, as self-criticism. But
you’re at your best when you acknowledge anger, and act it out clearly
and in a focused way, with honor.
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